Bridezillas

This post has absolutely nothing to do with the show, but I felt the name was completely appropriate for the title of this blog. While watching TLC (my former favorite TV station...) I watched the show "Say Yes to the Dress". I had read the info on it and thought watching a show about shopping for a wedding dress just CAN'T be that bad. Oh boy was I wrong. Women had budgets of sometimes over $10000! ON A DRESS! A dress that truly will (or at least should be) worn only once in a lifetime. I'm admittedly jealous that there are people in the world who can frivolously spend their money like that, but at the same time I start to question where their heart is. Which got me thinking on modern weddings, and when I say modern I really mean within the last 20-30 years. (I won't even begin to touch marriage in general as seen by the masses).

Sam and I did not truly have a "wedding". We were married in front of a justice of the peace with Sam's parents and his battle buddies in AIT. Therefore, I recognize I may not be the biggest expert on the subject, however I think every woman has knowledge of a wedding and how everything works. Simply stated, I think society has taken things too far. I think WAY too much is expected of weddings and I think people are once again COMPLETELY missing the point. I see a lot of these women on all of these shows fretting over the color of the napkins, the color of the lights, what type of chair the guest is sitting on and I think it's absolutely ridiculous. I also think there is WAY too much involved as far as etiquette goes as well. That could very well be a generational thing for me though. Personally, I don't think a wedding should be something that causes stress and anxiety. I understand there is work involved, and I find nothing wrong in that, but losing your mind over petty details instead of focusing and celebrating the fact that you are about to be MARRIED is just sad. I also don't understand the need and almost expectation to invite 300 people, half of which you've never actually met. I think a wedding is a very intimate ceremony, I think close family and friends should be invited, but I don't think the invitation list should become excessive. I understand the importance of having family present, I really wish we had been able to, but at the same time there really is taking it WAY overboard. And lastly, I think there is too much emphasis on having an elaborate wedding. For awhile I was concerned that not having a wedding ceremony would make it feel like Sam and I aren't truly married, but I was proven wrong. We are no more or less married than anyone who did have a wedding ceremony. Although we do plan on doing something eventually in order to be able to include our family and friends, I think there is way too much pressure to spend the money on a big lavish ceremony.

Seeing society with spiritual eyes really makes me sick. Plus, as I previously mentioned, I'm not going to even touch what society has turned a marriage into.